Worth reading elsewhere
Pieces from other publishers we trust, picked by hand. We link to them and say in one line why. We do not copy them.
Dating now
Pew Research Center, 2020
Dating and relationships: Key findings on views and experiences in the US (opens pewresearch.org)National survey data on how American adults feel about dating today, including why many say it has gotten harder.
The Gottman Institute
How to Stop Detached Dating and Create Real Connection (opens gottman.com)Explains why dating can feel guarded and transactional, and how to show up with more openness.
Brutal breakup
Greater Good Science Center, UC Berkeley
This Is Your Brain on Heartbreak (opens greatergood.berkeley.edu)Describes what heartbreak does to the brain and body, and why the pain feels so physical.
After divorce
Cleveland Clinic
Life After Divorce: How You Can Start Again (opens health.clevelandclinic.org)Practical guidance on grieving a marriage, rebuilding routines, and deciding when you are ready for something new.
Patterns you already know
The Gottman Institute
The Pursuer-Distancer Dynamic (opens gottman.com)Names a common loop where one partner chases and the other retreats, and how it follows people into new relationships.
Texting now
Cleveland Clinic
What Is Breadcrumbing? How To Handle It (opens health.clevelandclinic.org)Helps you recognize intermittent, low-commitment messaging and decide how to respond to it.